On Monday I talked about blog comments – more specifically the fact that even when I enjoy reading something I don’t necessarily leave a message to say so.
I mentioned this is because if I was going to say something I’d want it to add value to the discussion, or at the very make me appear pithy / wise / hilarious to other readers…. But also conceded that I love getting comments on my blog regardless of what they say, because the important thing is someone stayed long enough to read an entire post. People often get here by accident – sometimes looking for Glempy, Sandra, or Michelle; other times because some of my tags are a bit facetious.
Still, I’m rarely inundated with chat in the comments section and I reckon this is partly down to the fact that lurking readers do the same thing as me – read (or skim), go ‘I see. Well, I have nothing to add,’ and move on. But help is at hand! From now on you will always have something to add – just choose from one of my top ten pithy and insightful blog comments*, listed below. Copying and pasting has never made a blogger feel so validated.
The ‘please’
I enjoyed/hated reading this; please post more fantastic insights along the same lines/please stop writing about stuff like this, you terrible human. (except don’t do the insult thing – there’s nothing wrong with disagreeing with someone in a polite and intelligent way, but nobody likes a troll)
The ‘thank you’
This made me laugh/cry/do a little wee with joy/anger/incontinence – thank you for posting / I can’t believe you posted this / pass me the tenalady. (delete as appropriate)
The ‘I totally read this’
This made me think of: a time in my life when a thing happened / an article I read elsewhere / a story I heard. (please go on to elaborate by telling the story or linking to the article – sadly I can’t help with specifics)
The ‘this made me think’
I’d never really considered this before, but I’m glad you brought it up because it made me think. (you could go on to say ‘I did(n’t) agree with your conclusion for the following reasons)
The ‘let me help’
When I was in the same position as you / working or studying in a related field I found this book / website / joke / advice really helped.
The ‘constructive criticism’
Whilst what you say here is quite interesting, I wonder whether you have considered this big pile of evidence to the contrary? (NB explain / give examples other than speculation or hearsay) If so, what are your thoughts on it? (be careful here – always be measured and polite, and aware that people – including other commenters – may misread or misconstrue your words and then want to lash out. The critical comment is definitely the time to exercise those empathy glands – consider how you’d feel about receiving the comment on something you’d written. If it would make you furious and upset and ruin your day, don’t go there. But if it would make you embarrassed because you’ve missed out a massive chunk of the debate, it might be OK – as long as it is not presented in a smug, patronising or condescending way. I’m including this because I think there should be room for debate on tinternet that doesn’t descend into name calling, but it’s hard to be the bigger person when trolls attack and you may need to be thick skinned)
The ‘suggestion’
Have you considered writing a post about x? I think it would be interesting to get your take on it / it seems like the sort of thing you’d be interested in.
The ‘I shared this’
Thanks for writing this, I’ve told everyone I know they need to stop whatever they’re doing and read it ASAP!
The ‘non sequitur’
Sure, but what’s the deal with the Post Office? (probably not advisable, to be honest, as most people will assume you are spamming. Consider context before trying this…)
The ‘first time’
I just wanted to say I’ve been reading your blog for a while and I think it’s great / patchy / well designed. Keep up the (good) work.
*warning, may not be pithy or insightful
March 16, 2012 at 11:27 am
If I copy and paste here, that’s be kinda rude, wouldn’t it? But I really liked this post, because I found myself in it. I read a lot of blogs and don’t leave comments, but love to get them myself! So I am starting to leave comments now! 😀 Thanks!
March 18, 2012 at 6:29 pm
Glad to be of help! We shall change the world of blogging one comment at a time..
March 16, 2012 at 1:42 pm
I’d never really considered this before, but I’m glad you brought it up because it made me think.
March 18, 2012 at 6:30 pm
Hehe. Excellent work, you have done me proud.
March 16, 2012 at 6:52 pm
I’m in ur blog, commenting on ur posts
March 18, 2012 at 6:31 pm
Txt spk 4 da win, yeah? Or not..
March 16, 2012 at 10:05 pm
Brilliant!
And I couldn’t resist, had to copy and paste:
I just wanted to say I’ve been reading your blog for a while and I think it’s great / patchy / well designed. Keep up the (good) work.
😀
March 18, 2012 at 6:32 pm
Haha, thank you for your insightful comment, it really helped me a lot 🙂
March 17, 2012 at 9:20 am
This was interesting to read. It made me think of other times in my life when I’ve thought of leaving comments but been scared they won’t be pithy or insightful.
Have you ever thought about blogging about indecisiveness?
March 18, 2012 at 6:34 pm
I have now! Thank you, look out for a post on that sometime soon… I haven’t decided when..
March 19, 2012 at 2:39 am
Haha I see what you did there….
March 19, 2012 at 2:43 am
I was actually just complaining to the boyfriend ten minutes ago that I always want to comment, but so rarely can think of what to say. Of course, it doesn’t help much that I’m usually written out by the time I get around to reading other blogs… (Did you have that problem?) and when I’m tired, I tend toward the socially awkward…
Anyway, this actually helped. Thank you, dear.
March 19, 2012 at 1:22 pm
I think it’s a pretty common concern! And yes, it doesn’t help if you’ve been writing loads and are tired because by the end of the day you’ve stop editing yourself which means you might say something daft… In those situations perhaps one should probably restrict commenting to positive ‘I totally read this’ type comments?!
March 20, 2012 at 9:42 pm
This sounds like I’m being sarcastic but thanks for this post! It has made me more confident about leaving comments on blogs, even if it’s just to say “I totally utterly completely agree.”
March 20, 2012 at 11:40 pm
No worries – glad I could help, and thanks for commenting!